When someone is struggling and you respond with “at least you have x or y and I don’t”, you are dismissing that person’s struggles a bit. Yes they may have a partner or stable living situation or what not but that doesn’t mean they automatically have it better than you.

It doesn’t even matter if they do since there is no hierarchy of suffering. It’s the same as “at least it’s not cancer.” It’s harmful and dismissive and elitist. Please stop doing this. We need to treat each other better than this.


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